“I have come that you may have life, and have it more abundantly” (John 10:10).
When two persons are in a kind of blissful state, it’s easy to pledge a lasting union. It’s not difficult for them to say that they will love each other and remain faithful “until death do us part.” But as time goes by, and the daily pressures build and close in on them, the blissful episodes might well grow further and further apart. Joanne Woodward said that she couldn’t understand why her husband, Paul Newman, could still be a teenage idol because, as she put it, “He’s forty-five years old, has six children, and he snores.”
One of the beautiful things about a good marriage relationship is that, after the honeymoon is over, even after twenty-five or thirty years of snoring, the life-enriching union still endures.
A playwright once wrote, “Love is often the fruit of marriage.” Meaning, of course, that a good, lasting, loving union is the product of growth.
Romantic love is an essential ingredient of human development. The problem arises when romantic…